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Hierarchy of Needs

I'm back from the mountains of North Carolina, where I spent from last Thursday through Sunday. It was, as it always is, a life-changing event. I learned so much from everything I experienced there, and everyone that I met. My life is forever changed. Coming back from such a life-altering experience is always really hard. I find myself struggling with motivation, coping with what we call the "default world," and dealing with daily obligations. It's funny how being apart from civilization gives a completely different perspective on what civilization actually is.

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On the way up the mountain

I may have mentioned Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs before. Maslow postulated that in order for humans to function, they must have certain needs met. The fields of psychology, sociology and anthropology have embraced Maslow's theory, on some level, and run with it--proposing that everything from the basis of emotional well-being, to the likelihood of success, stems from these needs being met.

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When out, away from civilization and the comforts of "home," people tend to do one of two things: they think about how much they miss the comforts of home; or they realize how little those comforts actually comfort them. I tend to be the latter, rather than the former. Don't get me wrong, I would have loved a warm, dry place to sleep, but for the most part, I didn't miss the Internet, television, my cell phone, or even electricity.

Being apart from society and civilization would imply that we're apart from each other. But that's not the case. I've found that when I'm out in the woods, with other people, that that is when society actually begins. We form a tribe, a family. I often wonder why we don't do that, when we're among each other in the default world.

As students, we've been through several years of schooling together. We're nearing the end. Stress is running VERY high among our group. We're finding ourselves more anxious, more short-tempered, more ready to judge, bicker, harass, and goad each other. For those of us that have become close, we're finding it easier to support, empathize, listen, and care for each other. Perhaps some of this is because we know we won't be together for much longer. Perhaps the rest of it is that we're so unsure of what comes next. Perhaps some of us view each other as the member of the family that we really don't want to associate with (because we didn't get to pick this family).

In just under 9 months, we'll all go our separate ways. Some of us will be friends for the rest of our lives. Some of us will never hear from or see each other again. Just like my past weekend, some of us will be friends for the remainder of our lives, and others I'll never see again.

We have the opportunity every day to contribute to someone's hierarchy of needs. We can build each other up, nurture each other, be family (the good kind), and contribute to each other's well-being, not just our patients.

Last, I want to plug some of the upper trimester classmates who've been doing some good community outreach work. My hat's off to you guys. You're making it happen.

Until next week, my friends, I challenge you to think about how your needs are being met, what you really need and want in your lives, and who and how you view "family."

Happy adventures!

Off the Grid

There never seems to be enough time in the day. As I sit here surrounded by boxes and bags and suitcases, and wondering what in the world I'm going to forget, I'm preparing to leave on a trip. Every time I'm going somewhere like this, I'm scrambling around trying to remember what to take, wondering if it's going to fit in the car/bag/whatever, and worrying that I might forget something. It never fails that I say to myself -- "Never again." And here we are at the next round.

The same goes for finals and midterms, which thankfully are winding down for me. The day will soon come when I don't have any more of those. But until that happens, it's always last minute cramming, note reviewing, and wondering whether I'm going to forget something.

There's something beautiful about the concept of being prepared. It's been a long time since I walked into a test most assuredly and thought, "I've got this." More often than not, I don't think about it. I either have it, or I don't (or somewhere in between). That's not unlike other situations either. Sometimes we just know we're ready, and sometimes we're terrified. I find that being terrified is far more detrimental than just generally not being prepared.

In a few--not so short--hours, I'll be in the mountains of North Carolina, surrounded by a lot of people that I know and love. We'll be battling the elements and whatever we come across (including ourselves), just to experience that time together. It never fails that something happens. Situations arise, accidents happen, people get hurt--both emotionally and physically. There are people there to help take care of those instances, including myself.

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As physicians, it's our job/privilege to be there for our patients--in whatever capacity they need. As a volunteer, that's my job this weekend. I take it very seriously.

I'm probably not prepared for what might happen this weekend. I never am fully prepared for these things. But I also KNOW, that whatever happens, we'll all make it through together.

If you or someone you know is thinking about or talking about suicide, please seek help. Talk to someone. People are willing to listen.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

What a Week

How's everybody doing? It's Week 12 of the tri--4 weeks left (including this one we're starting).

Well, it's no secret to those close to me that I've had a really hard time focusing this tri. There've been sooo many distractions. I'm convinced that it's also this time of year that makes this tri so difficult--last year at this time I was struggling as well. Perhaps it's the wanderlust of summer, or the fact that we're perpetually in class. I'm not sure. Regardless, I'll be glad when this Tri is over.

I've been working really hard to try to keep my wits about me. At some point, I think it's common for all students to get discouraged--whether we feel like we've been in school for 4 million years, are burnt out from studying all the time, need a break, or have Life intervene. It's OK to have times like this.

I've taken a few trips, gotten involved in some outside activities apart from school, and spent time doing things other than school and studying. This past week/weekend, I participated in a gathering of Kindred Spirits--kind of like a family reunion near Asheville, NC. There were about 2,500 people there. Anytime there's a gathering of that size, there has to be an infrastructure. We have our own staff: medical, behavioral medicine, "law" enforcement, etc.--all based on volunteers. I have been to this event before and I usually volunteer for the medical staff. This time, I volunteered for behavioral medicine--which was amazing. I did end up filling in for some of the medical staff (with certifications in first aid, etc.), but the behavioral stuff--counseling and talking to people, was amazing. There were times when it was a comfort to people who just knew that we were there, holding space, should they need something or someone to talk to. I love being able to give back.

I was able to reconnect with friends that I'd not seen in years. There were local people there that I didn't know would be there--and we were able to reconnect. I made new friends and new connections that I will probably carry with me for the rest of my life. Some of these people may be my patients later on. Some may be my colleagues. Some are now just Family.

After such an amazing experience this weekend, I have to refocus myself for finals (and boards). I hope that I will be able to find that focus, and use my joy from the weekend, my beautiful experiences with so many people, and my newfound connections, to feed my Soul and keep me going.

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